5 Sex Tips for Young Gay Couples

Yes, when you first started dating, everything was sexy, just looking at your boyfriend made you want to rip his clothes off and have him right there and then. Perhaps there were even times when you couldn’t even control yourself and you would just do it in a bathroom at a friend’s party. However, this ‘hot and heavy’ stage always fizzles out. No one knows exactly why – perhaps you become too comfortable with each other, you become too secure in your relationship and the knowledge that you can have sex whenever you want actually leads to a lack of sex, or at least adventurous sex, which is actually kind of paradoxical if you think about it. Well, whichever the reason, the lesson we must all remember at all times is that, in a relationship, you have to work at keeping the fires of passion and adventure alive. Great sex doesn’t just happen, and sometimes you have to work at it either to rekindle the fires or keep the flame alive even before it dies. So, what can you do to improve your sex life? Stay tuned and find out. Spoiler alert: it’s not difficult.

Sleep naked

According to a survey published in the Huffington Post sleeping naked with your partner doesn’t only make you sleep better but can actually improve your sex life. The reason is simple: just being in close proximity to your partner and not be ‘separated’ by layers of clothing will entice and excite you. This in turn could actually lead to a lack of sleep (if you know what we mean), because once you caress your boyfriend’s skin, you won’t be able to help yourself and you’ll want them immediately. We have oxytocin, the ‘love hormone’ to thank for this. When you sleep naked together higher levels of this hormone are released and you’ll feel not only aroused but also more connected to your partner.

Time to play

Even straight couples have discovered the benefits of bringing sex toys into the boudoir, and we all know that when it comes to sex, gays are always ahead of the straights. So, even if the levels of pleasure are at a satisfactory level, introducing some pleasure enhancers is never a bad idea. There is a huge number of toys you can play with that will make sex an unforgettable experience, such as a prostate massager, a butt plug and a cock ring (these are plain amazing). Once you’ve included toys into your sex life, there will never be a dull moment in bed ever again, and your toy collection will just become bigger until you have to replace the ‘goodie drawer’ with a ‘goodie closet’.

When out of ideas

If you think you’ve tried it all and you’re fresh out of ideas as to what new thing to do – watching pornography is a great way to get some inspiration. Perhaps you’ll discover some new positions to try, but above all else, watching to guys (or more if that’s your kind of thing) being all hot and heavy will instantly arouse you to the point of eruption and you won’t be able to contain yourself. Just like when you were hot and heavy at the very beginning and couldn’t get to the end of a ‘regular’ movie, you won’t be able to finish this one either.

Talk about it

Once you’re in the ‘relationship’ stage as opposed to just casually dating and you are comfortable enough with your boyfriend to tell him all about your childhood memories and perhaps even share some emotional scars, you can be comfortable enough to talk about your fantasies. Fantasies are a healthy for a relationship, and in addition to that, if you go along with one or all of them, you might find unknown levels of pleasure. You may actually discover that you enjoy being tied up or are aroused by a certain fetish or role play that never crossed your mind before.

Never skip on foreplay

Sometimes the sheer anticipation of a touch is enough to get you going. Never forget to take your time, kiss like there’s no tomorrow, touch, play and tease one another to the point where you just can’t stand it anymore, and then tease each other some more. Sometimes there is nothing better than delayed gratification.

Peter Minkoff is a gay travel and lifestyle writer. Besides writing, he worked as a travel journalist for many publications in Australia and the UK. Follow Peter on Facebook and Twitter for more tips.

Peter Minkoff ist ein schwuler Reise- und Lifestyle-Autor. Er arbeitete als Reisejournalist für viele Publikationen in Australien und Großbritannien. Folge Peter auf Facebook und Twitter für weitere Tipps.

A prodigy: Xavier Dolan

I just read that “The Death and Life of John F. Donovan” is a new movie by Xavier Dolan (born on March 20, 1989 in Montreal) to be released this year. For a Dolan fan like me this is long-awaited news as the release of his last film “Simply the end of the world” in Cannes was in 2016 already. How could I cope during the past two years without a new production of Xavier? Only by watching all of his films so far on DVD over and over again.

For those of you who haven’t heard of Xavier Dolan yet as well as for everyone else I’m presenting you with a selection of my favorite films of him in today’s blog. Each one of them has received numerous international awards and nominations. Naturally.

I Killed My Mother | 2009

In his directing debut Xavier Dolan portraits of the life of the 16-year-old protagonist Hubert, who has recently started dating his classmate Antonin. Hubert’s anger and rebellion against his mother increases steadily so that he only sees one way out: to move out of his mother’s apartment as quickly as possible.

In this semi-autobiographical film Dolan also addresses his own issues in relation to and his relationship with his mother.

Heartbeats | 2010

Dolan’s film number 2 is all about a threesome relationship with four elements. Marie and Francis who are friends for a long time meet cuty Nicolas at a party. The drama seems unavoidable: friendship becomes competition and envy. Is Nicolas’ love really worth the effort? Is it worth it that Marie and Francis jeopardise their friendship because of him?

Laurence Anyways | 2012

This extraordinary film focuses on an apparently impossible love between a woman named Fred (Frédérique) and a transgender woman named Laurence (living as a man at the beginning). Laurence reveals her deepest desire to become her true self: a woman. The story which takes place in the late 1980s and early 1990s covers a decade and records the fatal love of Fred and Laurence and the trials and difficulties they face.

The Death and Life of John F. Donovan | release scheduled for autumn 2018

Dolan’s current cinematic trick was originally scheduled for release during the Cannes Film Festival in May 2018. But unfortunately we still have to be patient until the premiere. Dolan himself is said to have postponed its release until autumn so that he can continue working on post-production.

You can find an interview here with him from the set:

Steven

Steven has been part of ebab.com since 2013. He is the man for social media and the ebab gay travel blog. As you can see, he also likes to write a blog article himself.

German version: Steven gehört seit 2013 zum Team von ebab.com. Er ist der Mann für Social Media und unseren ebab Gay Travel Blog. Wie ihr seht, schreibt auch er gern einmal einen Blogartikel selbst.