A Gay Man’s Guide to Spring Break Packing

Ah, it’s that time again. No, we’re talking about the Game of Thrones time of the year, but spring, and the time to make all the necessary plans for our spring break gaycation! Now, this year you may have chosen a killer destination such as the Bahamas, or perhaps a more authentic one like Italy, but be that as it may, you really need to pay attention to what you’re bringing with you. Spring breaks might seem as holidays which you don’t really have to think a lot about, but the truth is different. You will most likely forget something important, so in order not to experience that feeling, take a look at some of the essentials, write them down and may it serve as a checklist!

Handsome during the day

In order to be look your best in the daylight, you need to pack all the best outfits that you will rock in the streets of your destination. These don’t have to be sexy (but if they are, so what), but don’t bring any old-fashioned clothes either. So, think casual. Bring some shorts, a pair of jeans, tees and shirts. You should also make sure to bring something long-sleeved as nights can be a bit chilly out there, but of course everything depends on the destination that you opt for. Think of all the outfits in advance, imagine them and pack accordingly. You will definitely need some extra space in your suitcase.

Sexy during the night

You can play this in two ways. As far as partying is concerned, you might choose to wear your daywear options and still look super cute, but you can also go a bit bolder. Opting for body harnesses is, for example, a very interesting move, but it’s not for the faint-hearted. Bottom line – you’re visiting a new place, so wear whatever makes you feel sexy and desirable. This is why you should always be ready to dress to impress, so pack your favorite party clothes and dancing shoes.

Be prepared for anything

What is your main goal this spring break? To Grindr your days out, or to try something new? The latter one is always a great option, because after all, it would be an excellent idea to try a new activity and experience something for the first time. If you’re visiting a coastal town, check if there’s any scuba diving equipment that you need to prepare in advance, as going scuba diving is always a wonderful experience. On the other hand, if you’re going to a place where safari’s very popular, also try to see if there’s anything that you could take from home as some things might be cheaper at your current location.  

Skin is glowing

This might not be your priority for the spring break, but packing all of your skincare routine essentials is very much advisable. First of all, you’re changing locations, which means that the weather is definitely going to be different, and it can take its toll on your skin. Bring your moisturizer and your cleanser, as you should still use them on a daily basis. Next, pack the masks or other products that you use in order to make your face so damn pretty!

The funsies

Once you pack your suitcase with the cosmetics, shoes and clothes, it’s time to think about the fun things that you might need there. First of all, bring books or Bluetooth speakers – anything that will make your trip and stay there more comfortable. Next, think about your lube and condoms. Even though you might be able to buy these wherever you’re going, it’s always better to bring them from home just to be sure you have them.

And the checklist is done! As you can see, it’s not difficult to pack your essentials, but you really need to make a list beforehand just so as not to forget anything. Also, bear in mind that the first things you need to pack are your passport, plane tickets and booking confirmation. Have everything you need? Have a great trip!

How to Stay Fit on Your Gaycation

Going on a vacation is a joyous occasion that will help you relax and take your mind off everyday stress. However, if you’re an active person who loves nothing more than staying in shape, you can’t spend your time doing nothing but eating all day long. You need to keep your body fit, lose some weight, and boost your strength, even though you’re supposed to be taking it easy. So, if you too are part of the gay community and wish to stay fit on your vacation, here’s what you need to do.

Eat healthy food

No matter what kind of vacation you’re going on – a cruise, a road trip, a visit to a foreign country, or something else – eating healthy food is essential. You can prepare your food yourself or rely on local restaurants, but insisting on eating three healthy meals a day is what’s ultimately going to make you fitter than ever.

This might not be easy, especially if you’re surrounded by tasty street food options people generally love when they’re far away from home, but it’s still doable. You just have to get organized, know when your meals are and what you’re going to eat – keep in mind that eating healthy food means you can try out new recipes and ingredients you don’t usually use, and as long as you stick to healthy food, you can eat as much as you want.

Hit the gym

Yes, being on vacation means you’re supposed to relax and do something you don’t usually do at home, but that doesn’t prevent you from hitting the gym every once in a while. Most modern hotels are equipped with a gym, and you usually don’t have to pay for it if you’re staying in there, so there’s no reason why you shouldn’t do that.

Taking an hour or two out of your busy vacation schedule might mean more than you can imagine, and this is an idea that really goes a long way, especially if you already have an established gym routine and know what you’re doing. Just a few exercises and thirty minutes on the treadmill will be enough, and then you can go back to enjoying your time away from home.

Try out new exercises

Working out in a new gym and a new environment means you can try out new exercises and routines you don’t have time for back home. Even if you’re the biggest fan of working out in the world, there must be a few things you haven’t tried yet, and hitting the gym on your vacation might be the perfect opportunity to do that. Whether it’s lifting weights, trying out new cardio equipment, or pushing your boundaries further than before, just stop thinking about it and start actually doing it!

Of course, you’re going to need some help, so talk to personal trainers in your hotel gym and ask them to give you a hand, show you around, and help you reach your full potential. If you’re planning on lifting weights, for instance, you might want to consider packing some comfortable bodybuilding clothing that will help you look good and give you that extra push you’re looking for. You need to do this beforehand, though, so start packing as soon as possible.

Go for a run

Running is probably the healthiest and easiest way to stay in shape, not just at home, but on your vacation as well. Therefore, you need to find time for a quick run in the morning or evening, and you won’t believe how much this will help you stay in shape.

Running in an unknown town could seem strange at first, but it’s one of the best ways to check out the place you’re visiting and get familiar with its parks, beaches, forests, and other outdoor locations suitable for running. In the end, this will get you energized and pumped up, and you’re going to enjoy your vacation more than ever before.

Staying fit on your gaycation isn’t easy, but it’s not impossible either. All you need to do is get organized, stay active and find ways to eat healthy food – these are the things that won’t just prevent you from gaining weight, but will actually help you lose some in the process as well.

How to Plan a Perfect LGBT Honeymoon

No matter if you’re a sucker for weddings or not, we can all agree that the honeymoon is the best part of any wedding. This is the time to make the best memories, relax and start your marriage on the right foot. However, without ample planning, your trip can end up being a total bust. So, here are a few practical tips on how to plan a perfect LGBT honeymoon.

Plan well

All the best honeymoons are planned while both parties are on the same page. So, make sure to talk it over before you start contacting travel agents! Do you want to unwind and relax or have a wild adventure that will fill you with adrenaline? Do you prefer bright lights of the city or the quiet of the beach and nature? You must know what you want as a couple and what you prefer as travelers. This will allow you to plan the best honeymoon to mark the beginning of your life together.

Research your destination

Here’s the harsh truth, it’s still illegal to be LGBT in over 80 countries and in 13 you can be sentenced to death for being gay. However, traveling as a gay person can be risky no matter where you go. This is not scaremongering, but even ultra-liberal destinations like NYC, London and Amsterdam have instances of anti-LGBT violence. Now, you can’t miss your honeymoon because you’re scared! But, what you can do is pick a more gay-friendly destination—we just want you to be safe, alright!

Choose LGBT-friendly accommodation

Not every destination has obviously gay resorts and hotels, so make sure to do your research. When in doubt, check with Ebab or go through Fodor’s and Frommer’s selections. You’ll get to find all sorts of LGBT sections, area-specific tips and no-nos for gay romance.

Pack well

If you’re going to a tropical island or anywhere where you’re planning to spend the majority of your time at the beach, you don’t need much. However, you still want to be stylish and even maybe show off your love. For instance, lesbian couples can check out one piece swimwear online and grab matching swimwear. You’ll look so fabulous together (you might look like walking lesbian stereotypes, but who cares!). However, if you’re planning to have fancy dinners in the city, you’ll need something more formal, preferably with sleeves. Additionally, don’t forget to pack all your sex toys and gear. You might get a chance to renew your collection at your destination, but who knows whether they sell anything. You just can’t risk it.

Organize something special

Just because you tied the knot, that doesn’t mean you can leave romance and grand gestures behind you! Take time to surprise your spouse with something very exciting and show just how much you love them. Use your knowledge of their preferences to come up with something amazing that will surely make them happy. If you have a hopeless romantic for a husband, plan a private evening with bubbly, roses and a lot of cuddling. On the other hand, if your wife loves adventure, a field trip to nature will make her feel over the moon.  

Don’t forget why you’re doing this

The most important thing about honeymoons is the feeling of doing something together, as a couple. So, no matter how much you hate organizing stuff, make sure to stay engaged and give your feedback. This planning time will not only allow you to grow as a couple but also bring you closer together. If you plan it together, it will make your honeymoon even more perfect. So, don’t forget why you’re doing this—to celebrate your beautiful love and your victory over haters!

Sure, planning a perfect honeymoon is not something you can do in one afternoon, but if you stay focused and do your homework, you’ll end up in real LGBT heaven!

5 Sex Tips for Young Gay Couples

Yes, when you first started dating, everything was sexy, just looking at your boyfriend made you want to rip his clothes off and have him right there and then. Perhaps there were even times when you couldn’t even control yourself and you would just do it in a bathroom at a friend’s party. However, this ‘hot and heavy’ stage always fizzles out. No one knows exactly why – perhaps you become too comfortable with each other, you become too secure in your relationship and the knowledge that you can have sex whenever you want actually leads to a lack of sex, or at least adventurous sex, which is actually kind of paradoxical if you think about it. Well, whichever the reason, the lesson we must all remember at all times is that, in a relationship, you have to work at keeping the fires of passion and adventure alive. Great sex doesn’t just happen, and sometimes you have to work at it either to rekindle the fires or keep the flame alive even before it dies. So, what can you do to improve your sex life? Stay tuned and find out. Spoiler alert: it’s not difficult.

Sleep naked

According to a survey published in the Huffington Post sleeping naked with your partner doesn’t only make you sleep better but can actually improve your sex life. The reason is simple: just being in close proximity to your partner and not be ‘separated’ by layers of clothing will entice and excite you. This in turn could actually lead to a lack of sleep (if you know what we mean), because once you caress your boyfriend’s skin, you won’t be able to help yourself and you’ll want them immediately. We have oxytocin, the ‘love hormone’ to thank for this. When you sleep naked together higher levels of this hormone are released and you’ll feel not only aroused but also more connected to your partner.

Time to play

Even straight couples have discovered the benefits of bringing sex toys into the boudoir, and we all know that when it comes to sex, gays are always ahead of the straights. So, even if the levels of pleasure are at a satisfactory level, introducing some pleasure enhancers is never a bad idea. There is a huge number of toys you can play with that will make sex an unforgettable experience, such as a prostate massager, a butt plug and a cock ring (these are plain amazing). Once you’ve included toys into your sex life, there will never be a dull moment in bed ever again, and your toy collection will just become bigger until you have to replace the ‘goodie drawer’ with a ‘goodie closet’.

When out of ideas

If you think you’ve tried it all and you’re fresh out of ideas as to what new thing to do – watching pornography is a great way to get some inspiration. Perhaps you’ll discover some new positions to try, but above all else, watching to guys (or more if that’s your kind of thing) being all hot and heavy will instantly arouse you to the point of eruption and you won’t be able to contain yourself. Just like when you were hot and heavy at the very beginning and couldn’t get to the end of a ‘regular’ movie, you won’t be able to finish this one either.

Talk about it

Once you’re in the ‘relationship’ stage as opposed to just casually dating and you are comfortable enough with your boyfriend to tell him all about your childhood memories and perhaps even share some emotional scars, you can be comfortable enough to talk about your fantasies. Fantasies are a healthy for a relationship, and in addition to that, if you go along with one or all of them, you might find unknown levels of pleasure. You may actually discover that you enjoy being tied up or are aroused by a certain fetish or role play that never crossed your mind before.

Never skip on foreplay

Sometimes the sheer anticipation of a touch is enough to get you going. Never forget to take your time, kiss like there’s no tomorrow, touch, play and tease one another to the point where you just can’t stand it anymore, and then tease each other some more. Sometimes there is nothing better than delayed gratification.

A prodigy: Xavier Dolan

I just read that “The Death and Life of John F. Donovan” is a new movie by Xavier Dolan (born on March 20, 1989 in Montreal) to be released this year. For a Dolan fan like me this is long-awaited news as the release of his last film “Simply the end of the world” in Cannes was in 2016 already. How could I cope during the past two years without a new production of Xavier? Only by watching all of his films so far on DVD over and over again.

For those of you who haven’t heard of Xavier Dolan yet as well as for everyone else I’m presenting you with a selection of my favorite films of him in today’s blog. Each one of them has received numerous international awards and nominations. Naturally.

I Killed My Mother | 2009

In his directing debut Xavier Dolan portraits of the life of the 16-year-old protagonist Hubert, who has recently started dating his classmate Antonin. Hubert’s anger and rebellion against his mother increases steadily so that he only sees one way out: to move out of his mother’s apartment as quickly as possible.

In this semi-autobiographical film Dolan also addresses his own issues in relation to and his relationship with his mother.

Heartbeats | 2010

Dolan’s film number 2 is all about a threesome relationship with four elements. Marie and Francis who are friends for a long time meet cuty Nicolas at a party. The drama seems unavoidable: friendship becomes competition and envy. Is Nicolas’ love really worth the effort? Is it worth it that Marie and Francis jeopardise their friendship because of him?

Laurence Anyways | 2012

This extraordinary film focuses on an apparently impossible love between a woman named Fred (Frédérique) and a transgender woman named Laurence (living as a man at the beginning). Laurence reveals her deepest desire to become her true self: a woman. The story which takes place in the late 1980s and early 1990s covers a decade and records the fatal love of Fred and Laurence and the trials and difficulties they face.

The Death and Life of John F. Donovan | release scheduled for autumn 2018

Dolan’s current cinematic trick was originally scheduled for release during the Cannes Film Festival in May 2018. But unfortunately we still have to be patient until the premiere. Dolan himself is said to have postponed its release until autumn so that he can continue working on post-production.

You can find an interview here with him from the set:

Penis Positivity: ER gehört dir.

Der englische Begriff “Body Positivity” beschreibt eine ziemlich aktuelle Bewegung. Sie scheint in Zeiten von sog. Influencern auf YouTube, Instagram, Tumblr und Co. immer mehr an Bedeutung zu gewinnen. Im Mittelpunkt dieser Bewegung steht die Akzeptanz des eigenen Körpers – sowohl bei einem Blick zurück in die Vergangenheit, einem Blick in den Spiegel als auch beim Blick in Richtung Zukunft. Es geht darum, dem Beauty Gedöns, Body Forming und Body Building die bewusste Annahme der eigenen Physis entgegen zu stellen. Also ein “JA” zum Ich und damit ein “JA” zur eigenen äußeren Erscheinung zu entwickeln, spüren und erleben.

Was hat das mit Gay und Schwanz – ähm, Penis 😉 – zu tun?

Die Antwort fällt nicht sonderlich schwer, ist doch das (Selfie) Posing und das Forming des Körpers ein fester Bestandteil des schwulen Alltags. Nicht nur im Club, beim Cruisen oder im Darkroom. Das Bild eines vermeintlich perfekten Körpers hat sich so verfestigt, dass es sich in zahlreichen Situationen, auch außerhalb der Szene, widerspiegelt. Neben einem Hipster-mäßigen Outfit zählen vor allem die “wahren Werte” eines schwulen Mannes  –  Länge und Umfang seines Schwanzes.

Als ob die fast schon ständige Konzentration auf das Äußere nicht anstrengend genug ist, nimmt bei der Bestimmung des Selbstwertes der Schwanz ein besondere Rolle ein. Zum Beispiel bei der allgemein üblichen gegenseitigen Begutachtung während des Duschens im Schwimmbad: “F*ck, wieder einer, mit ‘nem Längeren als ich!”

Typisches Selfie Posing: ‘perfekter’ Body und Schwanz

Um auf die Body Postitvity zurück zu kommen. Wie wäre es in dieser Situation mit dem Gedanken “Boar, hat der Typ gegenüber ein riesen Teil. Kein Wunder, der Kerl ist auch locker 20 cm größer als ich”? Was würde dieser Gedanke mit dem eigenen Selbstwert machen? Wäre die Chance, den Typen von gegenüber vielleicht sogar mit in eine Umkleidekabine zu bekommen, nicht größer? Wie wichtig ist überhaupt die Länge im Vergleich zur Potenz?

Penis Positivity

Sicher, einen Übergang vom Selfie Posing, inklusive Schwanzbildern, hin zur Penis Positivity stelle ich mir weder leicht noch besonders kurzfristig vor. Für mich wäre zu klären, welche Zwecke das Selfie Posing erfüllt und wie es dazu gekommen ist. Ich denke, mir selbst würde etwas Humor bei dieser Sache helfen, um den Druck, der mit dem Beauty und Posing Gedöns verbunden ist, ein wenig zu minimieren.

Neulich sah ich am Rückspiegel eines parkenden Autos einen Anhänger mit dem Text “I love my Penis” baumeln. Sofort im Web gesucht, fand ich unzählige Artikel mit diesem geilen Spruch. Zum Beispiel der Kaffepott, der mich seit Kurzem nach dem Aufstehen sofort an meinen Prachtkerl in der Hose erinnert.

Oder die Sticker, die ich überall in der Wohnung verteilen könnte. Der beste Artikel ist für mich jedoch das T-Shirt, mit dem ich im Club allen ganz easy, ohne ein Wort darüber verlieren zu müssen, sagen kann: Leute, ‘I love my Penis’. Echt ein Hammerteil, … (nicht nur) das T-Shirt. 😉

My 7 Wonders of the World, Part II

After reporting about the Stonewall Inn and others in my last blog in part I, I will present the final four of my 7 personal wonders in part II:

Maldives

I have travelled to the archipelago several years ago. I was overwhelmed by the turquoise water. To experience such “tropically dyed” water in reality, was extremely inspiring. Not to mention snorkelling: I got close to a baby shark. *Wow* Last but not least, the Maldives are among my wonders of the world, because their existence is threatened by the rise in sea level.

Underground

Most of my destinations have been big cities so far. I have always loved to travel by public transport there. That’s the only way I can truly immerse myself in daily life experienced the locals. I prefer to use an underground if there is one. An underground network is not a classical place or building. but I am always intrigued how it operates. And without the engineers who created it this experience would not be possible. This is why I consider an underground network as one my seven wonders of the world. A cool audio sample of the underground in my city Berlin: Oliver Koletzki – Underground.

Museum of Modern Art (MoMA)

As well as I haven’t been to NYC at the Stonewall Inn so far, so I haven’t visited the real MoMA yet. However, like other art lovers, I had the great fortune to see the MoMA exhibition in Berlin in the Neue Nationalgalerie in 2004. I accepted a waiting time of just under four hours gladly. When I finally got my ticket I spent several hours in the unique exhibition. I was able to see live my favorite work of art – Persistance de la Mémoire by Salvador Dalí (1931), the original. An absolute highlight for me which is why the MoMA has a secure place on the list of my seven wonders of the world.

Cologne Cathedral

Although I am an atheist, there are still a few ecclesiastical buildings whose grace I cannot escape: the Cologne Cathedral is one of these buildings. Not only the building itself, but the reverent and sublime atmosphere inside make it so special to me. This mood came to my mind especially during a midnight mass.

Ein Wunderkind: Xavier Dolan

Soeben las ich, dass mit ” The Death and Life of John F. Donovan” in diesem Jahr ein neuer Streifen von Xavier Dolan (geb. am 20. März 1989 in Montreal) in die Kinos kommen soll. Für einen Dolan-Fan wie mich ist das eine lang ersehnte Nachricht, denn die Veröffentlichung seines letzten Films, “Einfach das Ende der Welt”, 2016 in Cannes liegt schon etwas länger zurück. Wie konnte ich nur diese letzten beiden Jahre ohne eine neue Produktion von Xavier überhaupt überstehen? Wahrscheinlich nur dadurch, indem ich mir all seine bisher gedrehten Filme immer und immer wieder in unserem Heimkino “reinzog”.

Für diejenigen unter euch, die von Xavier Dolan noch nichts gehört haben sollten, und für alle anderen, stelle ich heute eine Auswahl meiner Lieblingsstreifen von ihm zusammen. Jeder einzelne von ihnen erhielt zahlreiche internationale Preise und Nominierungen – keine Frage!

I Killed My Mother | 2009

In seinem Regiedebüt erzählt Xavier Dolan aus dem Leben des 16-jährigen Protagonisten Hubert, der seit Kurzem mit Antonin, seinem Klassenkameraden, zusammen ist. Hubters Zorn und Rebellion gegen seine Mutter nehmen stetig an Intensität zu, sodass er nur noch einen Ausweg sieht: so schnell wie möglich aus der Wohnung seiner Mutter ausziehen.

Mit diesem zugleich semiautobiografischen Film thematisiert Dolan auch seine eigenen Erfahrungen aus der Beziehung zu seiner Mutter.

Herzensbrecher | 2010

In Film Nummer 2 von Dolan dreht sich alles um eine Dreiecksbeziehung mit vier Ecken. Marie und Francis, die eine lange Freundschaft verbindet, lernen auf derselben Party den Cuty Nicolas kennen. Damit scheint das Drama bereits vorprogrammiert zu sein: aus Freundschaft wird Konkurrenz und Neid. Ob sich die Mühe um die Liebe von Nicolas tatsächlich lohnt? Ist er es Wert, dass Marie und Francis seinetwegen ihre Freundschaft aufs Spiel setzen?

Laurence Anyways | 2012

In diesem außergewöhnlichen Film steht eine anscheinend unmögliche Liebe zwischen einer Frau namens Fred (Frédérique) und einer transgender Frau namens Laurence (zu Handlungsbeginn als Mann lebend) im Mittelpunkt. Laurence offenbart ihren innigsten Wunsch, ihr wahres Selbst zu werden: eine Frau. Die Geschichte, die in den späten 1980er und frühen 1990er Jahren spielt, umfasst ein Jahrzehnt, in dem die verhängnisvolle Liebe von Fred und Laurence sowie die Prüfungen und Schwierigkeiten, mit denen sie konfrontiert sind, aufgezeichnet werden.

The Death and Life of John F. Donovan | voraussichtlich Herbst 2018

Dolans aktuelles filmisches Kunststück sollte ursprünglich während der Filmfestspiele von Cannes im Mai 2018 veröffentlicht werden. Doch leider müssen wir uns bis zur Premiere des Filmes noch gedulden. Sie soll von Dolan selbst auf Herbst verschoben worden sein, damit er noch weiter an der Post-Produktion arbeiten kann.

Vorab findet ihr hier ein Interview mit ihm vom Set:

My 7 Wonders of the World, Part I

The origin of the Seven Wonders of the World dates back to antiquity. Initially they comprised only man-made structures. Meanwhile also seven natural phenomena are considered a wonder of the world and a recognised as such internationally.

In addition to the internationally recognised 7 (or 14) Wonders of the World, I think every backpacker or traveller has their own personal seven wonders of the world. Places or / and structures that are either associated with unique memories of a journey or that cause a great wanderlust when they come to mind. Today I am going tell you which personal seven wonders are on my list. In Part I of this blog, I will introduce you to the following three wonders of the world:

Stonewall Inn

Although I’ve never been there – Sorry – StoneWall Inn is on top of my list of my own seven wonders of the world. The reason for this is clearly the Stonewall Riots, which were “instigated” by courageous LGBTs in and around Stonewall Inn on Christopher Street. Without this milestone of lesbian and gay movement, we would not have achieved as much in the fight for equal treatment and recognition as we have done so far. The StoneWall Inn is a queer place of worship for me. I’m going to visit it next year – Yeah!

La Tour Eiffel

The Eiffel Tower is closely linked to one of my most beautiful trips. This beautiful work of art always invites you to the city of love. I’ll never forget the day I visited it with my partner. We stayed up there for several hours until sunset. The view in all directions, the wind caressing our noses, the impressive sunset and the swaying of the spire – all lasting impressions for us.

Berlin TV tower

The Berlin TV Tower is completely different to the Eiffel Tower, which is why it is one of my seven wonders of the world. If only because it impressed me by its history. It was built in a record time of only a few years. The highlight of the TV tower for me is the restaurant one floor up from the visitor platform. Not because the food is particularly amazing, no. But because I love to be in the revolving restaurant without having to get up to catch the 360 ​​degree panorama of my city.

In Part II of my blog, I will report why, for example, the Maldives are among my personal wonders of the world.

Palm Springs: A Year-Round Desert Paradise Awaits You, Part II

Today, in part II of my Palm Springs blog post I’ll write about some highly frequented gay hot spots, e.g. the Hunters Nightclub. I’ll also recommend my favorite restaurants, e.g. Alibi and Azul’s.

Alibi and Azul

On the second floor of the convivial Mexican and tapas restaurant Azul, you’ll find Alibi to be a spacious, upbeat spot that is part video bar, part sports bar, and an excellent place for cocktails and people-watching early in the evening, as the balcony setting overlooks bustling Palm Canyon Drive below and the mountains to the west.

The Barracks

Barracks is the local hangout for guys into leather, uniforms, fetish, bears, boots, pierced and tattooed dudes, muscle worship, military gear, water sports, and hard-core cruising. Located in Cathedral City, a 10-minute drive from Palm Springs, the Barracks is in a not-so-obvious location, so look for the Arco gas station on East Palm Canyon Drive at the intersection of El Dorado and Canyon Plaza, then turn right at Canyon Plaza.

Bongo Johnny’s

Conveniently located on Arenas Road next to Stacey’s bar, Bongo Johnny’s restaurant offers an affordable breakfast, lunch and dinner menu. Half of the venue’s seating is devoted to a lovely outdoor patio for casual al fresco dining and fascinating people-watching.

Hunters Nightclub

The largest and most popular of the gay bars along the Arenas Road strip in downtown Palm Springs, Hunters Nightclub is a spacious, well-decorated, upscale-looking gay bar that’s a mainstay of the region’s clubbing scene. Popular as much for watching videos and dancing as for watching hot go-go boys, Hunters fills to the rafters on weekends in high seasons and draws pretty good crowds year-round.

Quadz

One of the hotspots in the Palm Springs Arenas Road gay nightlife district, Quadz is a friendly men’s bar drawing a mostly 30-and-up crowd of guys into karaoke, videos, and drag shows. The crowd varies a bit depending on the night, with sometimes a slightly younger crowd, and other times a mix of women and men. It’s a fun place on weekends.

Stacy’s

If a quiet piano bar is your style, the newest offering in Palm Springs is Stacy’s, where you can enjoy a cocktail and friendly conversation with locals. Crystal chandeliers and regular pianists add to this sophisticated interior popular with locals and tourists alike.

Streetbar

The laid-back Streetbar is a mainly male, cash-only neighborhood hangout, generally drawing a 40-and-over crowd. It’s a popular stop on the Arenas Road gay bar circuit and is known for karaoke, cheap happy hours, and campy drag shows.

Tool Shed

Since the mid-1990s, the rough-and-ready Tool Shed has been the premier leather-and-Levi’s bar in Palm Springs. It’s on a side street on the south side of downtown. Open from morning until 2 am, the Tool Shed offers cheap and potent drinks, hosts an Erotic Art Expo each February, and awards a Mr. Tool Shed Leather prize each year.

Toucan’s Tiki Lounge

This tropics-themed bar and dance club is one of the top gay hangouts in the desert region, catering to a primarily male (but female-welcoming), all-ages crowd. It’s known for such engaging theme nights as Sunday night drag revues, 2-for-1 drinks on Tuesdays, ‘80s flashback dancing on Wednesdays, and Jungle Boogie (with go-go dancers) on Fridays and Saturdays.

Tropicale Restaurant and Coral Seas Lounge

The Tropicale Restaurant & Coral Seas Lounge offers a chic and sophisticated décor that provides the setting for distinctive world cuisine, a provocative mix of zesty influences that creates a delightful dining experience. The adjacent Copa Nightclub is also a very popular upscale entertainment venue featuring musicians, singers, and comedic drag shows.

Trunks Bar

Formerly known as Diggs, Trunks is a friendly gay neighborhood bar, a casual little hangout in Cathedral City, about a 10-minute drive from Palm Springs. It features a pool table, Wii games, and gay country-western dancing on Tuesday and Saturday.

Wang’s in the Desert

Wang’s in the Desert is one of Palm Springs’ hot spots for contemporary Pan-Asian food. The restaurant is stylish and festive, and the sidebar, which hosts happy hour celebrations, is a fun venue for colorful cocktails and mingling with locals and tourists.

Some facts about me

I’m your welcoming ebab host offering two spacious guestrooms in my Palm Springs condo located one block from the south terminus of the popular Buzz Bus. My Junior Suite with king bed and private bath is ideal for one or two people, while the Master Suite with two double beds, en suite bath and private patio comfortably accommodates one to four guests.